I need to create some decoy "how to not hate your wife after kids" book jacket to slip over top of it, and give it to him for Christmas. As I mentioned, I checked this book out from the library, but if I hadn’t, I would have been marking up this whole book.

A new mother will work far harder, more creatively, and more effectively than people who don’t have children—because she has to.I was 50% of the problem," says Dunn, adding that she developed a temper that "still causes me a lot of shame". Your partner only does less than half the work if 1) they're an a-hole, and/or 2) you do more than half the work.

Dunn and her husband each get a half day off (one on Sunday and one on Saturday) where they can sleep in, go on a long run, or meet a friend for breakfast. Why did I assume that so many of these little "life after baby" marital frustrations had only ever happened to me? That’s how the Parenting with Intention Journal came to be…because, as I shared what I learned about intentional parenting with other moms in my clinic or online, it resonated with them. I think my husband would find this book so helpful and interesting too, but I don't want him to know I was even reading a book suggesting that I hate him post-kids (I don't).This idea was reminiscent of another one I heard from a friend where her and her husband each get 1 evening off per week. We at Penguin Random House Australia acknowledge that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples are the Traditional Custodians and the first storytellers of the lands on which we live and work. Learning about the 5 S’s (swaddling, shushing, side, swing, suck) was the best thing we did for him to feel more in control in the newborn stage. Some may have time and means to access therapy or childcare help to spend alone time together, while others may not have the ability to do so regularly. Disclaimer that no one should be having sex unwillingly—these are just tips for finding time and getting in the mood.

This, combined with a lack of sleep, a suddenly unfair division of household chores and her husband’s new found passion for very long bike rides, meant that Jancee found it hard to look at her well-meaning, clever, funny husband playing with his iPhone without feeling a white-hot rage. We haven’t tried this one but if weekend schedules don’t permit that simple kind of Saturday/Sunday division, then this week night idea might work better for you. It's maybe a self-esteem thing, where identity gets bound up in being a mom … She'll say, 'I just feel like his mom now, as opposed to more of a confident individual'," he says. Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in How Not To Hate Husband After Kids. People in positive long-term relationships have lower rates of heart disease, live longer, and are less likely to develop cancer.I race in, late from a stint as a volunteer cafeteria helper at my daughter's school, and slide onto the bench next to my friend, who, with her willowy frame and wavy red hair, resembles a contemporary version of Millais's painting of Ophelia. When I asked him to, uh, clarify, he said, “We need to hire a sitter to take them out of the house for a few hours or we’ll never have sex again. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours.